Saturday, June 7, 2008

Reference Group and Jealousy-1

About 25 years back, I attained a rare insight sitting on a bar stool in the clubhouse next to my colleague Ram.
In the crowded lounge overlooking the bar, a game of Housie was on. By all visible and audible evidence, the punters were having a fun time.
Suddenly, Srini, the Chief Manager blew in thru the glass door and ordered loud for his pet poison. Visibly agitated, he didn’t need a ‘wassup’ to open his heart out. ‘Look at the grin on this Venkat’s face’, pointing out thru the glass, he whined ‘he won the prize –of 20 rupees-; has the devil’s luck’.
After few more drinks and many more explanations for Venkat’s good luck, Srini shuffled away.
Ram turned to me and said ‘This is life. Since Srini has Venkat in the reference group, he gets jealous and annoyed at Venkat's good fortune. Were it to be a mere beggar winning the national lottery, Srini would have been at his expansive best and held forth on how the providence chose to smile on the poor beggar; why such people deserve lucky breaks ..blah blah’

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